From Trying To Conceive to Pregnancy to Birth

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Hey guys,

I know I have been MIA and lord so much has been going on around me. I have been through trying to conceive, actually getting pregnant, and now I am a mother of a beautiful baby girl. So I am know you are wondering how it all happened and what is going on; I guess I will start from the beginning and yes I have some mental health things that I have dealt with a long the way.

So here's how everything happened, I have always wanted to be a mother and experience the journey of carrying a child because I have mentioned before I am a bonus mom, which I love being. But from that it still had me desiring more than just that; so my wife and I went on the hunt to become a mother. With all that I did a lot of research and found the greatest donor to help make this dream come true. But with that came some complications because in the process of trying to do all this I had a death in the family in more than one way.

Death one was my parent's marriage (which is an entry of it's own) and secondly I lost my uncle Reggie (which I did an entry about "I hate goodbyes"); so with dealing with that it made it kinda hard for me mentally. I lost some faith in becoming a mother but after much prayer, I decided I would continue on with my TTC process.

So the week of Thanksgiving, I inseminated twice and 2 weeks later I found out I was pregnant. Now that's when the journey became full of joy but extremely intense. You see, my anxiety got the best of me in the middle of the night and early in the day. My mind started to wonder crazy thoughts and sometimes it was so bad that I thought something would happen to my unborn child.

My pregnancy was great by far and I only had very few bad things happen, but when the bad things happened they hit hard. I was reaching the end of my pregnancy I was 36 weeks pregnant when I found out I had preeclampsia. It was very scary to hear that bad things can happen to me and my baby because of my blood pressure; so I ended up giving birth early.

I had a C-section, oh did I forget to mention not only did I have preeclampsia but my baby was breech. So I went through a major surgery that honestly gave me more anxiety than being pregnant, but I thank God that my wife was right by my side and she kept me sane the whole time.

My birthing process went by fast in reality but in my mind it went in slow motion and I relive it in my mind all the time. Going through this process, made me a lot stronger and I became a no nonsense type of person; but I will leave that to another entry.

But in the meantime, I will be out here just #SurvivingLife.

-Jess Lore'al

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  1. UnknownAugust 15, 2019 at 7:46 PM

    Beautifully said Cousin! Continue to be strong and continue to cancel and overcome all negative assignments! Remember you got this!❤❤❤❤

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