Forgiveness
That is such a loaded word that many do not truly get the meaning of or have a deeper understanding about because they do not really go deep into the process. So today I wanted to break it down, so that people can get why forgiveness is important; yes this will be hard to do at first but in due time it will become your way of life.
So the cycle of forgiveness begins with a person hurting you in any shape or form; in most cases boyfriend, family, best friend, etc. Some people decide to not forgive and to hold a grudge, but do not realize that holding a grudge affects them more than the other person. You wanna know how? I'm glad you do because here is the breakdown.
You holding a grudge about whatever it maybe, that means you are harboring anger and resentments that are going to eat at your soul. With those things eating away at you slowly, you start to think everyone else that comes in your life is like that person or those individuals that you are mad at and you ruin new relationships.
Those people could be connected to new blessings God has for you and because you are blocking them, you end up blocking your blessings and you end up stuck in a mental cycle of anger and it's everyone else's fault but your own. You think the world is against you and you become alone and bitter.
BUT YOU CAN AVOID ALL THIS!!
How do you avoid all that unnecessary? You FORGIVE!
You see forgiveness is not for them it's truly for you and you alone. it's for you to free yourself of the hurt, anger, resentment, and be freed of that person and their actions all together.
For example in my life, I have been done wrong by many ex's and a few friends. I have no hard feelings towards any of them truthfully, but I just choose to not associate with them anymore. I have forgiven them all because for a long time I was in a dark place holding on to all the anger and resentment for how they did me and guess what? They were living life all happy and carefree...
I thought to myself why should they be able to live their best life and me still harbor something they have not thought twice about. So I decided to forgive whether someone apologizes to me or not because forgiveness is for me not them. I am able to hear the names of people that in those moments I thought I could never hear about because of the scars and pain, but truthfully once I moved on I was at a different level of happy and peace.
Yes some situations are harder to get over than others but you have to realize that you being at peace in your life is more important than holding on to the anger and hurt. Now even though you forgive you do not have to forget or go back to hanging with or associating with them. You can keep your distance and live your life peacefully.
Life is way too short for all the unnecessary anger, hatred, and resentment. Forgive for your peace and happiness; so no one can live rent free in your soul.
Until Next Time, I'll be #SurvivingLife.
-Jess Lore'al
So the cycle of forgiveness begins with a person hurting you in any shape or form; in most cases boyfriend, family, best friend, etc. Some people decide to not forgive and to hold a grudge, but do not realize that holding a grudge affects them more than the other person. You wanna know how? I'm glad you do because here is the breakdown.
You holding a grudge about whatever it maybe, that means you are harboring anger and resentments that are going to eat at your soul. With those things eating away at you slowly, you start to think everyone else that comes in your life is like that person or those individuals that you are mad at and you ruin new relationships.
Those people could be connected to new blessings God has for you and because you are blocking them, you end up blocking your blessings and you end up stuck in a mental cycle of anger and it's everyone else's fault but your own. You think the world is against you and you become alone and bitter.
BUT YOU CAN AVOID ALL THIS!!
How do you avoid all that unnecessary? You FORGIVE!
You see forgiveness is not for them it's truly for you and you alone. it's for you to free yourself of the hurt, anger, resentment, and be freed of that person and their actions all together.
For example in my life, I have been done wrong by many ex's and a few friends. I have no hard feelings towards any of them truthfully, but I just choose to not associate with them anymore. I have forgiven them all because for a long time I was in a dark place holding on to all the anger and resentment for how they did me and guess what? They were living life all happy and carefree...
I thought to myself why should they be able to live their best life and me still harbor something they have not thought twice about. So I decided to forgive whether someone apologizes to me or not because forgiveness is for me not them. I am able to hear the names of people that in those moments I thought I could never hear about because of the scars and pain, but truthfully once I moved on I was at a different level of happy and peace.
Yes some situations are harder to get over than others but you have to realize that you being at peace in your life is more important than holding on to the anger and hurt. Now even though you forgive you do not have to forget or go back to hanging with or associating with them. You can keep your distance and live your life peacefully.
Life is way too short for all the unnecessary anger, hatred, and resentment. Forgive for your peace and happiness; so no one can live rent free in your soul.
Until Next Time, I'll be #SurvivingLife.
-Jess Lore'al
Today's post was definitely spot on. Forgiveness is something that everyone is going to have to do at some point in their lives and on more than one occasion. When someone does you wrong, you are hurt, angry, and resentful as you mentioned. Those feelings can lead to stress which could lead to stroke. Then boom, here you are in the hospital, stressed over someone who probably doesn't even know you have an issue or doesn't really care. There are family members that have done me wrong and I have had to forgive them. It was hard and it took time. I am still working on some family members. I still love them but I know that we will never have a relationship again and I am okay with that. I choose to protect myself and my inner peace. I have heard many people say such and such stressed them out, have them a headache, made them to do let that when they are done wrong. But they didn't make you do anything, you chose to act on those negative emotions and now your body and mind is suffering from it...choosing to hold a grudge is on you....You can't make someone else forgive you, but you can choose to forgive their behaviors and elevate yourself...it is a process and it had to be worked at but the benefits are well worth it. You hit the nail on the head with this one. ☺️
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