Knowing My Worth

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I realized that over the years I have allowed people to say that I am important but not really show me that I am important. It was like I was building one sided friendships and one sided relationships period with people, that now when people match or double my energy I do not know how to handle or take it. 

Like I know everyone has lives and most people are busy very often, but I refuse to believe that you do not have time just to check in on someone or even just say hello. A simple text message goes a long way for some people because communication is key and that means you are showing them they were thought of; so many people take these things for granted, but wonder why people sometimes will back away from them in general you know. 

For me, I have given a lot of me to people show them their importance in my life and how much I care of them, just for me to not get that in return and then get mad at me if I start to match their energy. It's like I have to text you all the time and let you know how I feel but you get to go days and sometimes even weeks without talking to me and that is okay... In what world should that be okay?

I use to settle for whatever and now I am starting to see I deserve a lot more than just some bare minimum, because if my friends come with certain energy I believe that everyone should come with that energy ESPECIALLY if you call yourself interested in me or wanting to get to know me. 

We, as people, make time for what and who we want; I'm learning the hard way that some people you may hold near and dear might not feel the same for you. Because just like everyone else I am busier than I use to be, but if I can make the time others should match that energy and if not I am just going to let that be. I am worth a lot more than I accept from others and that really needs to stop and I mean that across the board. 

I really do not like being that way but I need to be this way so that I can stop allowing people to take advantage of the love I have to give, show, and nurture a person with. At this time, Im going to love me more for the both of us and just matching energy on all levels, because I have bigger things to do instead of wondering what I mean to anyone. 

Either apply the pressure or just do not worry about me at all. 

But hey, until next time I will be #SurvivingLife

-Jess Lore'al

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