Just a Random Update

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It's been so long since I have been in this blog of mine and just wrote out my thoughts and feelings. Life has been going and going; sometimes its going good and sometimes life throws crazy curve balls. I mean I have realized that I have come a long way but unfortunately sometimes your emotions will cause your mental to want to go backwards.

So my shift happened back in May, I mean Mother's Day weekend to be exact. My aunt passed away and I lost my job; then to top it off I ended up getting a C+ in one of my Master's classes that I needed to make an A in because of my GPA already being low. So like the saying says "When it rains, it pours"; but I must say that I have not been defeated, I have been down though. 

I have been really proud of myself lately being able to not allow situations or circumstances to get me out of character. I also started the process of doing something that I have really wanted to do in life and that's teach. I have been studying like crazy and I have been really taking time to really evaluate the things around me in these really vulnerable times.

But in other news, I have really been thinking about what's next for me now, being divorced and a single mom; like am I at the point where I want to just move forward and do what's best for me and my daughter. I have realized that my healing has been beneficial for my sanity and I am grateful that I have been processing my hurt to be the best mother and person I can be. 

In this process though I noticed that a lot of my friendships have shifted majorly because of my mindset changing. I have notices that I am putting up more boundaries and some people are okay with that and others are not, but hey those that mind don't matter and those that matter don't mind. All in all, I am evolving into a better version of me and I am enjoying that.

Until next time, know that I am happily #SurvivingLife

-Jess Lore'al

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